I've began writing this about eleventy zillion times, but I don't know what to write.
We're having a little "what is and whats not appropriate to blog about" controversy over here at AVP.
I blogged, and perhaps I shouldn't have. I thought I wrote it in a fair way. I took a long time to write it, making sure I cover all bases. In the end, I thought, it's my blog, these are my feelings, do I not have a right to publish my feelings if that's what I want?
But others felt differently and feel like I wrote the post to cause trouble, felt that I posted things that I had no right to post.
In my defence, sure I posted about other people, but I posted about how these other people (person) makes me feel. My feelings/my right.
The shit hit the fan big time, all the way over to Facebook, where the storm of whats OK and whats not OK to publish continued, and the whole "sticking your nose in others business" became the big issue of the week, and my page was bombarded.
I do understand the arguments presented to me, the whole privacy issue. I think the fact that I have (not very many) followers is the issue. Followers that read and make their own opinions. It'd be OK if I wrote this for me, but this person believes that I blog for comments, for reassurance, and take my comments as gospel. My argument is that this is my part of the world, I need an outlet, simple as that. And my "followers" either know me in real life - and therefore know what's going on anyway, or don't, so why would their judgment bother said person. Sure validation is wonderful, constructive criticism too, and I do read my comments, and I do get sad if there are none. But I'm a grown up, I do know how to form my own opinion. Besides, blog or no blog, do you seriously think that no one gives me their opinion anyway?!
After the shit storm this person went and told people EVERYTHING! how is that any different to me blogging?!
So my conundrum, do I stop blogging? Do I change the way I blog? Do I say fuck it, it's my blog and write what I want? Do I delete AVP and come up with a new one that people I wish to write about will never know of?
I love blogging, most of the time, and my blog is about my life, it's not about my awesome style, or my renovation of an old church, it's not about me and my 15 kids, or how amazing my cooking is, it's just about me. To be honest, while I Love me a good fashion blog, or interior design blog, the blogs I'm really drawn to are ones about real life.
The one that really stands out at the moment is Loris blog where she writes honestly, and heartbreakingly about her husbands recent suicide. She's coped some major shit for revelling too much, but she also gets an average of 20,000 hits! Kate speaks from the heart when she writes, about confidence issues, relationships, travels, food, books, whatever. It's never to "be cool" it's always purely and simply Kate. Margie lost her son to a drug overdose, and never ever sugar coats it. Sara blogs about whatever she damn well feels like. If you don't want to be blogged about, don't mess her around! Sara is one of the most down to earth, honest people out there in blogland. We've read about Summer loosing her father, having a miscarriage, her trials with IVF, we've shared Megs life in New York, her confidence issues and hard times with an eating disorder. We also share the good times with bloggers, weddings, birthdays, new homes, new babies, new jobs, new adventures, travels, dreams, crafts, cooking, new clothes, new hairstyle, whatever.
We share the good times, why can we not share the shit times too? No ones life is perfect 100% of the time.