i’ve toed and froed with the idea of starting this blog up for over a month now.
obviously, because i’m writing this, I’ve decided on the fore
when people find out that I write a blog, there’s 3 main questions;
what’s a blog?
what do you do on it?
isn’t it just airing your dirty laundry in public?/what happened to the padlocked diary under your bed?
so, the geeks answer for “what’s a blog?” (according to wiki)
A blog (a portmanteau of the term web log) is a personal journal published on the World Wide Web consisting of discrete entries ("posts") typically displayed in reverse chronological order so the most recent post appears first. Blogs are usually the work of a single individual, occasionally of a small group, and often are themed on a single subject.
In actual fact, that may have been how blogs began, but there’s hundreds, if not many sorts of blogs now days, not just journal type ones. there’s weight loss, style, educational, informative, self help, travel, photography, mummy, etc etc etc
my blog, well it was kind of a journal, like many of the blogs i read. it was a place where i could rant and vent and ponder and debate and basically, it was a place where i could have a voice.
and yes, it could very well have been considered a place of public dirty laundry airing.
the padlocked diary under my bed? no one reads that, and if any blogger is honest, that’s a massive part of the reason we blog; because we actually want people to read what we write. we want a voice.
i’ve never understood the problem with airing your dirty laundry. in fact, i believe the culture of never speaking about the bad things and always putting on a “my life is perfect” facade has actually contributed to the issues of depression and suicide. but that’s a post for another time.
no ones life is sunshine and skittles all the time, and no one believes you anyway if you pretend it is. i honestly don’t see anything wrong with admitting that you had a shitty day or you felt you were treated unfairly, whether that be to a close friend, on facebook or by writing in your journal or on your blog.
as long as there’s a balance, just as no one wants to read about the sunshine constantly shinning out of your arse, they also don’t want to always be reading about your never ending pity parties.
honesty, and how much is too much was my biggest concern when thinking of returning to blogging, well honesty and privacy.
my favorite blogger is my favorite blogger because her posts are so genuine, so raw, so honest.
and so eloquent. recently she posted about the first lie she ever told. it was obviously a post brought about a lie currently in her life, but rather than writing “on Friday night, john smith told me a lie” she chose another approach.
that’s what i have to change, while i want to be honest in my writing, i also need to keep an element of privacy, and, as i have learnt, respect other people.
i guess i believed that by having comments open to anyone, and having a policy of not deleting them, i was providing those i spoke about their right of reply. while i was always very careful to be truthful in my writing, and i still believe that i have a right to talk about my life, (which of course often includes other people), i now understand that without every person i speak about having their own blog, they don’t truly have access to voicing their side.
oh, and i do solemly swear that i will never hit "publish" while angry. save, review later and then decide if it's worth of publishing. my new blog mantra!
i’m going to see how this new approach goes.